What is Consensual Sex?
Consensual sex is when both partners are freely and willingly agreeing, or consenting, to whatever sexual activity is occurring.
The issue of consent is very clear. Consent is an active process and a responsibility shared by both partners in any relationship. Consent cannot be given when an individual is intoxicated. Sex without consent is sexual assault/rape. You cannot assume that you have consent – you need to ask.
Make sure the sex you are having is consensual:
- Do not make assumptions about consent; lack of a “no” is not a “yes”
- Ask for consent – it communicates respect and generally sex is better if both partners can talk about what they like/don’t like
- Communicate clearly – talk about your sexual desires and limits
- Know that if someone is intoxicated they cannot legally consent to sex. Having sex with someone who is intoxicated is rape.
- Approach relationships as equal partners, openly communicating in an atmosphere of mutual respect and shared decision-making.
